“Systematic parental alienation”

Parental alienation is a deeply painful and often misunderstood aspect of family dynamics, especially when it plays out through the court system. Divorce is a challenging, often heartbreaking process for any family, but when it involves children, the stakes become even higher. While the court system is designed to ensure the best interests of the child, it can sometimes inadvertently contribute to parental alienation. This occurs when one parent, intentionally or not, undermines the child’s relationship with the other parent. The adversarial nature of divorce proceedings can exacerbate these tendencies, leading to long-term emotional damage for both parents and children.


This past year has been a challenging one to say the least. Anyone that has ever gone through a divorce knows how devastating it can be. It’s even more devastating when a child or children are involved. As a mother your worst fear is being separated from your children. It’s even worse when that fear becomes reality because of the family court system. Family/Divorce court is inherently adversarial. Each party typically hires their own attorney to represent their interests, often resulting in a battle-like atmosphere. This setup encourages parents to present themselves as the better, more suitable guardian, sometimes at the expense of the other parent’s reputation and relationship with the child. The focus on winning can overshadow the primary goal: the well-being of the child.


As a mother being away from my child weeks at a time is very hard to deal with mentally and emotionally. Not being able to tuck your child in every night, hold them while they’re sick, and wipe their tears when they cry has been some of the most difficult things I’ve ever had to deal with in my life.


When you look to the court system to protect your children but instead, they do the opposite has been a big eye opener for me.  The court says “in the best interest of the child” but their rulings and procedures prove the opposite. I chose to represent myself in court and as a result my time with my child was taken away. I was mocked during the trial when I was just a mother trying to fight for my rights and the rights of my child. I hope to one day change this by advocating for children’s rights when it comes to both parents.

Divorce is never easy, but by recognizing and addressing the ways in which the court system can contribute to parental alienation, we can work towards creating a more supportive, child-centered approach. This ensures that, even in the face of separation, children can maintain loving, healthy relationships with both parents.